With blended families of every configuration in our complex world, the step-parent and the biological parent are often confused about what role for the step-parent to take in relation to the step-children. Its a tough task to figure out. How does a person find a way to be both supportive and encouraging with all the players? Its not easy for sure.
One option among others is to bring to mind the image of a "Good Aunt" and a "Good Uncle". Sometimes it's possible to imagine this Good Aunt or a Good Uncle to be warm and friendly towards the children. They might avoid playing the heavy role in disciplinary matters. Imagine them being free to be encouraging and enthusiastic with the children. In the best of all worlds, they can be supportive of the biological parent backing them up with encouragement, affirmation and affection. It's an option worth considering, but it may not fit all situations. There are so many varied configurations that its unlikely for any one idea or model to fit each blended family situation.
Nevertheless, if a step-parent can find the fine line between encouragement, fun, humor, and supportiveness with the child(ren) as well as the biological parent, even if less than perfect, they are likely to be glad they did. Best wishes, Stephen Elliott, Ph.D., Psychologist
One option among others is to bring to mind the image of a "Good Aunt" and a "Good Uncle". Sometimes it's possible to imagine this Good Aunt or a Good Uncle to be warm and friendly towards the children. They might avoid playing the heavy role in disciplinary matters. Imagine them being free to be encouraging and enthusiastic with the children. In the best of all worlds, they can be supportive of the biological parent backing them up with encouragement, affirmation and affection. It's an option worth considering, but it may not fit all situations. There are so many varied configurations that its unlikely for any one idea or model to fit each blended family situation.
Nevertheless, if a step-parent can find the fine line between encouragement, fun, humor, and supportiveness with the child(ren) as well as the biological parent, even if less than perfect, they are likely to be glad they did. Best wishes, Stephen Elliott, Ph.D., Psychologist
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