The topic of transitions for students with autism comes up frequently here at Child And Family Development's Midtown and South Charlotte locations. Our team can help you prepare for the move but here's a great guide to get you started.
Leigh Merryday, a school media specialist and autism parent blogger at FlappinessIs.com, wrote this post for WhatToExpect.com's Word of Mom/Real Mom Advice section. Leigh is married with two children — a typical five-year-old daughter and a three-year-old son on the autism spectrum. Her bio states that "In her spare time, she vehemently denies being addicted to Facebook, reading, and peanut butter fudge. No one believes her."
Here are a few of her tips:
1. A 5-minute early pass. If your child is overwhelmed by loud noises or people bumping into him, passing time in a middle school hallway can be upsetting. Ask for a laminated hall pass to leave each class five minutes early. Your child will then be able to use the restroom and make it to his next class in peace. A pass may also curtail bullying, which often occurs in the bathroom or hallways. Deans and guidance counselors utilize such passes for students for various reasons and it won't hurt to have one. If you find your child doesn't have a problem in the hallways, he can simply choose to not use it.
2. A safe place. Guidance counselors and deans can get awfully busy. If your child is in distress, he needs to have a person on campus he can go to for help — immediately. The safe place should also be available during, or in lieu of, noisier whole-school activities such as concerts, lunch, dances, sporting events, etc. In my school, the designated safe place is in the library with me. I befriend our spectrum kids early in the year and let them know they can always come to the library for some quiet, a place to rock/stim, and the opportunity to walk around. They know they can come to me with problems such as bullying or if they have a substitute teacher who doesn't understand their needs. A safe place can make all the difference for our kids.
3. Social Skills/Anti-Bullying group. Inquire if your child's school has one of these. If they don't, suggest to a guidance counselor or administrator that one be started. The group can be made up of kids with social difficulties and kids who are bullied. This type of group could be an opportunity for him to talk with or listen to peers with similar experiences as well as to learn strategies for dealing with it. It has the added benefit of introducing a group of children who might not get to know each other otherwise. I have even seen after-school clubs that are especially welcoming to the not-so-cool kids — board game clubs, book clubs, etc. If the after-school program doesn't have something like this, suggest it to the principal.
Click here to read more of Leigh's tips on helping a child with autism transition to middle school. And if you like her writing style and find her tips helpful, click here to check out her blog.
What tips would you offer to parents and care-givers who are facing this transition?
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